Starting New Traditions

As I wrote yesterday, today is my son’s birthday. He will be celebrating it yet again in heaven. I have decided this year to do something different. Something more for me than for him, but to celebrate his birthday, none the less.

Our family has pictures of my son all over the house as a way to keep him alive in our hearts, always. This has served as a way for my younger children to know their brother who passed before they were born. Looking at these pictures last night gave me an idea of a wonderful way to celebrate Israel’s birthday.

So, here is my idea. I am going to have a birthday party as a celebration of the things we remember about Israel. I will have each of my children that knew him, talk about their favorite things to do or about their brother. In this way we will all get to relive the joy that he brought into our lives, as well as, giving the younger three a way to know who their brother was through our memories.

I am choosing joy over sadness this year. I am choosing faith over regret. I am going to live today as if my son were here with us, as I know he truly is in our hearts. I choose to be thankful for the time I had with him and to use these memories to help my family heal from his loss. While I am not saying I am not sad or that I do not miss my son with all of my heart, I am simply saying that I choose joy.

I feel like God has finally allowed me to heal the hole that has been tearing me apart for 11 years. He has given me a way to be happy while I am missing my son. So today I say I choose joy over sadness. 

I don’t know how well this is going to work, but I am hopeful. I will let all of you know tomorrow how it went. Maybe it can help many of you who are dealing with loss to choose to concentrate on the joy your loved ones gave you. Maybe this small gesture can start the healing process for all of us. 

As always inspire to be inspired and never stop looking for the light shining in the middle of the darkness that surrounds  you. 

Thank you all for your continued support. You are all appreciated.

2 thoughts on “Starting New Traditions”

  1. Thank you for sharing your heart and this approach to grief. Indeed, it is the memories I have with loved ones who have died that give me joy. Praying you will be immersed today in the joy of those memories.

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