Defining My Personal Success

Good morning all. I hope your week has started off fabulously. Forgive my absence for a few days. I have been working on my personal success. So, today I thought I would share my decisions and the inspiration that brought me to this point. 

As many of you know, I have been struggling with finding time for work, family, and personal writing. Well a wonderful coach that I follow named Gabriela Blandy who has a page called Write, no Matter What, reached out one day and asked me how my writing was going. I answered the question with good and followed up by asking for advice on making time for my writing, when I was tired from writing for everyone else all day. Her response was spot on and brought me to the decision I am excited to talk about today.

Gabriela posted a video addressing the issue of finding time for our own writing when we are exhausted from the days chaos. In this video she speaks of the ways we value our writing and the belief we have in ourselves. During the video she asked the viewers to take two minutes and visualize where they see themselves in 1 year, 2 years, 5 years, well the point is, to visualize what you see yourself doing in your writing and how doing this would make you feel. This exercise was my epiphany moment. This is when I realized what I was doing, while I enjoy it, was all wrong for me.  

What I found during this exercise is that I want to write novels and I want to tell the stories that live in my heart to the world. Okay, so this is nothing you all didn’t already know, but what I didn’t realize until I really visualized where I want to be in a year and how I want to feel, is that I am doing it all wrong. 

So, now let me explain. My current writing is tailored to make others happy and to fulfill what others need. I am not currently writing to make myself happy and fulfill my own needs. I have put the emphasis of my daily work on achieving what others ask of me. While this is work I enjoy doing most of the time, it is not getting me any where near my goal. So, I need to change it.

To understand what I needed to do to get to where I want to be and feel the way I want to feel, I took a break. In her video, Gabriela suggests taking two minutes and visualizing. Well, me being me, I took two days. For these two days I did not write, I stayed away from work related social media, I logged out of Twitter (I know, gasps and head shakes), and I focused on me and my desires. I envisioned the future I want to have and how my writing fits into that future. What I found was the inspiration I needed to push me to where I am going. 

What I discovered is that writing is not part of the future I see for myself, it is the future I see for myself. I do not see myself doing other things and writing in my spare time. I do not see myself fulfilling other peoples needs and wants and then writing in the wee hours of the night. I see myself writing, not because I have to but because it is what I love to do. It was this revelation that brought me to this post. 

I have decided that I am going to put my writing at the forefront of my life. My 9 to 5 so to speak will now be my writing and achieving my goals. What I have spent the last two years achieving will not go to waste, it will become further inspiration for the future I see for myself. I have a plan and no matter the obstacles that stand in my way, I will achieve my goal

I want to say thank you to Gabriela for taking the moment it took to send me a message and ask me how I was doing. From that small gesture came inspiration that is invaluable. Not only did she reach out to a stranger with a real desire to know how I was doing, she also listened to my response. Then she came up with a meaningful answer that helped in a way I will never be able to put into words (and that is saying a lot, since I normally have something to say about everything). 

I look forward to the next year and seeing how my new plan takes shape. I also look forward to the next five years and beyond. Because of the kindness of one person, I have regained the passion that was waning. I now wake up in the morning happy to start my day, instead of dreading yet another day. 

I hope that this post will be an inspiration to many out there that are struggling to find their path. To achieve what is in their heart. It is not easy and it will take a lot of work, but it can be done. When you find that one thing  that makes you happy in this crazy world of chaos, grab a hold of it and make it happen. You write your own story, so only you can choose your happy ending.

As always my friends, inspire to be inspired and start writing your tomorrows, the fairy tale is just beginning.

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