Stepping Outside of My Box

Good evening all. I hope this week is off to a fabulous start for each of you. Before I get into today’s post, I would like to take the time to say thank you to every one who has supported me on this writing journey, whether by purchasing my novel, through encouraging words, or just taking the time to read what I have to say. Also, don’t forget that in 3 days La Flor Manor will be free for five days. Make sure you grab a copy and let me know what you think. I love to hear all of your feedback.

Today’s post is inspired by an amazing coaching session I had on Monday, and the realizations that came from talking with someone about my writing plans, journey, and pitfalls. I often find it stressful to achieve what I set out to do. Not because I don’t want want to do it, nor because it is hard per se. The issue is that I am often overwhelmed with everything I have on my plate. Though I thrive on pushing myself, it takes a mental toll that leaves me exhausted. My coach helped me to realize that it doesn’t have to be so exhausting, if I would just ask for the help I need.

This is a problem for me though. The truth is, I hate asking others for help. Not because I don’t feel like I need it, more because I fear the response of others when I ask for their help. Let me explain. I will do anything in my power to help some one in need. Whether it is simply lending an ear or giving the last dime I have to make sure they do not go without. However, when the roles are reversed, I have often faced a negative response. Whether it be no, I don’t have time, or why should I, the response is often something that says, I know you helped me but my time is more important. 


With all of the negative responses I have received from my pleas for help, I have developed the mindset that I shouldn’t ask people for help. If I am honest, asking someone for help causes me a great deal of panic and anxiety. Just writing about it, is bringing tears to my eyes.

I discussed this with my coach, and she has challenged me to step out of my comfort zone. Her challenge requires me to ask one person for help each day for the next thirty days. These do not have to be monumental requests for help, like hey will you loan me the money to go back to school. What they have to be is stepping stones to helping me understand that it is okay to ask for help and that I cannot achieve my writing journey unless I take these steps. 


I started this challenge yesterday, and I have to admit, I have seen fantastic results by reaching out and asking. I have asked for advice as well as assistance with finding the right school for my studies in creative writing. My requests were met with such positive support, that I was brought to tears more than once in the last couple of days. I did not realize just how much support I have on this journey and the knowledge has inspired me to push harder to achieving my goals.

 Now, in continuing my thirty day challenge, I am asking each of you if you will lend me your hand and help me win this challenge. I am not asking you to buy anything or spend hours listening to me talk. All I ask is that you let me share my words with you and that from time to time you leave me a comment or like letting me know that my words have been heard, inspired, or even annoyed you. What ever the case may be.  

As always, inspire to be inspired, and remember you are not alone in this creative journey, you just have to know who to ask along for the ride.

2 thoughts on “Stepping Outside of My Box”

  1. I’ve experienced a lot of rejection when asking for help too. It’s really hard to work up the courage to ask again once you’ve been told “no” do many times. Glad you’re experience so much support in your writing journey! Keep up the great work!

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