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  • Achieving,  family,  Inspiration,  learning,  parenting,  world

    How to Deal With Your Childs Tantrum

    Good afternoon all. I hope you are having a fabulous weekend so far and staying warm. Today I have decided to talk a bit about parenting and the issue of the dreaded tantrum. I am sure many of you can relate with this topic. You know that fit that starts with mommy can I have and ends with your child screaming at the top of their lungs.

    As a mother of six I have learned to deal with this tantrum rather well. Not that it makes them any easier but thus is life when you have children. I have learned some patterns to avoid and some easy tips to help ward off these fits that leave one looking for an escape. Here is what I have discovered.

    1. Make sure your child is well rested before trying to venture to any store.
    2. Distractions are an easy decoy.
    3. Stay strong it will pass.
    4. Do not worry about what others think.
    5. If all else fails, leave your child at home with dad.

    Okay, so step 1 is the ideal option for any trip. You all know that a rested child is a happy child. If you know you have to go to the store, try to schedule it around your child’s normal nap time. After being the optimal time. As any parent knows this is not always possible. Enter step two.

    Having a distraction for your child helps to keep their minds occupied. Children often throw a fit because they are bored. With boredom comes the need for attention or something to occupy their time. Try taking a favorite toy or book with you when ever you travel to the store. Do not give the item to your child until you see that the tantrum is inevitable. Let them look and be involved with your shopping trip and then pull the toy out at the needed time. Giving your child the toy to begin with will only cause them to get bored with that toy and look for new distractions. Then guess what, in comes the tantrum. So having a backup distraction is always a smart idea.

    There will be times when every distraction in the world just does not work. When this happens and the screams start, you want to crawl in a hole and never come out. Do not give up though. This will pass. Sometimes you just need to let them scream it out. I know this is not what you want to hear when you are standing in a store full of people who are now staring at you. Enter step four. Do not worry about what others think. While you may at the moment feel like the worst parent in the world you are doing what is best for your child. When your child is throwing a fit he/she is asking for validation to their claims of necessity. If you give in and give them what they want to avoid the criticism of bystanders, you will be failing your child. Let them scream. Just keep going through your shopping list and ignore the tantrum they are unleashing. This will accomplish two things. You will be teaching your child that what they are crying for is not something they need and you will be teaching them that screaming is not a way to get their voice heard. Thereby teaching them that next time (and yes there will be a next time) they want something, screaming will not work. After you have done this for a while your child will learn that tantrums do not serve a purpose and they will have fewer and fewer.

    I hope this helps at least someone out there. While I will not say that any of these steps are easy, they are doable. They will not always work but they will help. Never give up and just keep doing what is best for your child. In the end you will have a few more grey hairs and a better relationship with your child.

    Have a wonderful weekend my friends. Inspire to be inspired and keep your dreams alive always.

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  • Achieving,  apllications,  change,  future,  Inspiration,  learning,  rejection,  work

    Surviving The Dreaded “We Decided to go in Another Direction”

    You hype yourself up, pour your heart out into your portfolio and know you have what it takes to get the job. You turn in your application and wait…..Finally you receive a response. “Thank you for your time but we have decided to go in another direction.”

    Let’s face it, this is a companies polite way of saying you did not have what they were looking for. With all of the demands for political correctness and not hurting feelings, this is what a rejection letter has come down to. The funny thing about these types of rejections is that I would rather not work for a company that is going to turn their business around and go in a different path, rather than hire me.

    Okay, let’s be serious, this type of rejection while it stings is hurting future generations more than it is helping. I understand not wanting to hurt feelings and not wanting to cause problems, but who does this help. If you are going to turn someone down, it is better that you tell them why. After all, how is someone supposed to improve what they do not know is wrong?

    While the sting of that rejection letter or call hurts, you need to use it to figure out what went wrong. Think about the interview process and use the rejection, (because we all know that is what it is) to your benefit. Figure out which part of your presentation was off and make it better next time. Polish your resume, rehearse your answers to questions that will be asked, and do some research into what your prospective employer is looking for. It is easy to say, “I just wasn’t right for the job.” When what you need to be doing is asking “Why was I not right for the job?” So next time you can make changes and wow your way to where you want to be.

    While it is easy to get discouraged by these set backs, if you use them to better yourself, then they serve a purpose. It is time to take another approach to rejection letters. They are not saying you are not a good candidate, you just were not the perfect candidate. That is what companies are looking for in today’s highly competitive markets. The only problem is, they never quite explain what that is. So ask. If you do not ask the person writing the note, then ask other professionals like them. Find a friend who works in that field or a mentor in the same business, or use the resources at your disposal. This is the age when “Google” knows all. Ask the questions, because unless you know where you are going wrong you will never be able to go right.

    Leave the other direction behind you and always keep moving forward. Your perfect position is out there, you just need to be ready to go and get it.

  • Achieving,  books,  ebook,  fantasy,  fiction,  MyBook,  publishing,  reading,  Review,  romance,  Uncategorized

    Editorial Review

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    A strong female lead; a fantasy world; and a gripping storyline…A promising debut!
    Lizette has spent the past few years dedicated to her legal career which suddenly seems to come at a standstill and a man who has been betraying her from the start. Trying to escape the sudden turmoil in her life, she decides to leave the country and take a break. Prince Feliciano is trapped in a cruel game of destiny which has him separated from his loved ones for more than a century. To return home, he must find his soulmate first: a woman who is pure of heart and has a link to his old world, who will be willing to return home with him leaving her own life behind. When finally, they meet, it is love at first sight. But will love be enough for Lizette to abandon her family, her friends, and her life? Will she follow her heart? La Flor Manor, the first book in series is definitely a brilliant start by Mary Jaimes-Serrano. Serrano’s world is rich in culture and history. Serrano’s vivid description transport you to the La Flor Manor so that you’re standing with Lizette throughout her adventure there. The sprawling eighteenth-century palace is brought alive by detailed imagery of fineries and open gardens. Lizette is a normal young woman, someone easy to relate to. Prince Feliciano’s perceptions of Lizette make you aware how he sees the young woman, and at the same time, the reader gets to know him better in the process. A gentleman at heart, he has this boyish charm. The author has done a brilliant job when it comes to characterization. The characters, all of them, are easy to connect with. Serrano flawlessly blends heartbreaking drama with the daily chit-chat of characters’ lives. The vivid descriptions of open landscapes make the settings come alive. The pace is even and story flows smoothly until the end. La Flor Manor is a promising first instalment to the upcoming series. The book, with its strong characters, intriguing storyline, and stunning setting will leave you want more at the end.