You hype yourself up, pour your heart out into your portfolio and know you have what it takes to get the job. You turn in your application and wait…..Finally you receive a response. “Thank you for your time but we have decided to go in another direction.”
Let’s face it, this is a companies polite way of saying you did not have what they were looking for. With all of the demands for political correctness and not hurting feelings, this is what a rejection letter has come down to. The funny thing about these types of rejections is that I would rather not work for a company that is going to turn their business around and go in a different path, rather than hire me.
Okay, let’s be serious, this type of rejection while it stings is hurting future generations more than it is helping. I understand not wanting to hurt feelings and not wanting to cause problems, but who does this help. If you are going to turn someone down, it is better that you tell them why. After all, how is someone supposed to improve what they do not know is wrong?
While the sting of that rejection letter or call hurts, you need to use it to figure out what went wrong. Think about the interview process and use the rejection, (because we all know that is what it is) to your benefit. Figure out which part of your presentation was off and make it better next time. Polish your resume, rehearse your answers to questions that will be asked, and do some research into what your prospective employer is looking for. It is easy to say, “I just wasn’t right for the job.” When what you need to be doing is asking “Why was I not right for the job?” So next time you can make changes and wow your way to where you want to be.
While it is easy to get discouraged by these set backs, if you use them to better yourself, then they serve a purpose. It is time to take another approach to rejection letters. They are not saying you are not a good candidate, you just were not the perfect candidate. That is what companies are looking for in today’s highly competitive markets. The only problem is, they never quite explain what that is. So ask. If you do not ask the person writing the note, then ask other professionals like them. Find a friend who works in that field or a mentor in the same business, or use the resources at your disposal. This is the age when “Google” knows all. Ask the
questions,because unless you know where you are going wrong you will never be able to go right.
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Good afternoon all. Well, we have all survived the holidays and the day has finally come that the children are back in school. So now there is time to write, right? Not in my house. Now there is time to catch up on all of the stuff that has been put off to spend time with my children. Yeah, that is the excuse we will use. If your house is anything like mine, these were things that were put off because it was easier to wait until the children were out of the house (and not making a further mess) to clean up and do. So the next few days will be spent putting my house back in order and getting back to life as normal. Do any of you experience this chaos when your children are home, or is it just my house? Let me know in the comments what your chaos is like. Maybe we can support each other and share strategies.
I also want to take the time to thank all of you who have purchased the first book in the La Flor Manor trilogy. I hope you are enjoying it as much as I enjoyed writing it. I am currently working on book two and planning book three. Lizette and Feliciano are headed for some trials to say the least. Spain 1822 is not what Lizette expected at all and culture shock might possibly be setting in. Plus there is a bit of an over-protective mother-in-law to contend with there. We will have to see how the love birds deal with the strain.
Lastly, I would like to ask for everyone’s patience with the new site. I am making some changes and upgrading some features. If there is something you don’t like, please drop me a line and let me know. It is a work in progress as I figure out what works best for my content and readers desires. Thank you in advance for your understanding. I will try to keep every one updated on the website and books two and three.
As always, have a wonderful day and inspire to be inspired. I hope you achieve what you set out to do today, and if you do not, do not give up just keep trying.
Good afternoon. Today I have decided to talk about another topic that is personal and dear to my heart. Hidden illnesses. Those that we all suffer, but only a few truly know we suffer. Mine is bi-polar. I was diagnosed about 10 years ago, however, have suffered the effects of this illness for far longer. For those who do not know, this illness causes a chemical imbalance in my brain. Basically, I feel like I am on a roller coaster with changing emotions from day to day or even hour to hour. To look at me no one would know that inside my head, I struggle daily. I have very good days, and then very bad ones. Certain things trigger my changes, and I am beginning to understand these triggers. Kind of. Anyone who has read my writing will see a difference. Some days are dark and sad, others are happy and inspiring. The face I show the world though, is normally inspirational and positive. I do not want my illness to affect the lives of those around me. I do not want my loved ones to suffer the unknown I live inside my head. While this is a lonely world that leaves me feeling like I am alone in a room full of people, I have my writing. This is my comfort zone. My safe haven so to speak. When I write, I can just be me. Whatever I am feeling, I can write, without being judged.
So, my hope is that while we are all celebrating this holiday season, we will keep in mind those who are secretly suffering. The ones you know about and the ones who may have it hidden so well, they are not even aware yet. Many suffer in silence, like I do, because they do not want others to feel sorry for them or be adversely affected. Just be kind to everyone you meet. You do not know what that person sitting next to you on the subway or standing behind you in line may be suffering.
Have a wonderful holiday season. And remember to inspire others so you too may be inspired.