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  • Achieving,  family,  Inspiration,  learning,  parenting,  world

    How to Deal With Your Childs Tantrum

    Good afternoon all. I hope you are having a fabulous weekend so far and staying warm. Today I have decided to talk a bit about parenting and the issue of the dreaded tantrum. I am sure many of you can relate with this topic. You know that fit that starts with mommy can I have and ends with your child screaming at the top of their lungs.

    As a mother of six I have learned to deal with this tantrum rather well. Not that it makes them any easier but thus is life when you have children. I have learned some patterns to avoid and some easy tips to help ward off these fits that leave one looking for an escape. Here is what I have discovered.

    1. Make sure your child is well rested before trying to venture to any store.
    2. Distractions are an easy decoy.
    3. Stay strong it will pass.
    4. Do not worry about what others think.
    5. If all else fails, leave your child at home with dad.

    Okay, so step 1 is the ideal option for any trip. You all know that a rested child is a happy child. If you know you have to go to the store, try to schedule it around your child’s normal nap time. After being the optimal time. As any parent knows this is not always possible. Enter step two.

    Having a distraction for your child helps to keep their minds occupied. Children often throw a fit because they are bored. With boredom comes the need for attention or something to occupy their time. Try taking a favorite toy or book with you when ever you travel to the store. Do not give the item to your child until you see that the tantrum is inevitable. Let them look and be involved with your shopping trip and then pull the toy out at the needed time. Giving your child the toy to begin with will only cause them to get bored with that toy and look for new distractions. Then guess what, in comes the tantrum. So having a backup distraction is always a smart idea.

    There will be times when every distraction in the world just does not work. When this happens and the screams start, you want to crawl in a hole and never come out. Do not give up though. This will pass. Sometimes you just need to let them scream it out. I know this is not what you want to hear when you are standing in a store full of people who are now staring at you. Enter step four. Do not worry about what others think. While you may at the moment feel like the worst parent in the world you are doing what is best for your child. When your child is throwing a fit he/she is asking for validation to their claims of necessity. If you give in and give them what they want to avoid the criticism of bystanders, you will be failing your child. Let them scream. Just keep going through your shopping list and ignore the tantrum they are unleashing. This will accomplish two things. You will be teaching your child that what they are crying for is not something they need and you will be teaching them that screaming is not a way to get their voice heard. Thereby teaching them that next time (and yes there will be a next time) they want something, screaming will not work. After you have done this for a while your child will learn that tantrums do not serve a purpose and they will have fewer and fewer.

    I hope this helps at least someone out there. While I will not say that any of these steps are easy, they are doable. They will not always work but they will help. Never give up and just keep doing what is best for your child. In the end you will have a few more grey hairs and a better relationship with your child.

    Have a wonderful weekend my friends. Inspire to be inspired and keep your dreams alive always.

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  • family,  future,  Inspiration,  Military,  parenting,  remembering,  Sacrifice,  Thank you,  world

    Thank You: You Are A Hero

    Good afternoon all. Today I would like to take the time to thank all those who serve in the military. No matter where you are from or what military you serve in, THANK YOU.

    I was sitting with my son, scrolling through Facebook when I saw a video of returning soldiers. Needless to say, I was in tears and my 3-year-old was asking me what was wrong. I did not know how to explain it to him. So, I sat and thought about it. I tried to come up with a way to explain to my child why I was crying. Well as it normally does, this line of thought brought me to other thoughts. Like how would you tell a child that their mommy or daddy will not be home for a few weeks, months, or even years? Now here I am. After my tear-filled realization brought on by a Facebook post.

    I felt the need to say thank you to all of the men and women who leave their homes and serve to protect others from the monstrosities that are in the world. Thank you to the men and women who stay at home and keep children, pets and family members safe while their loved ones serve a higher purpose. Thank you to the children who wait patiently for mom or dad to come home from service to share a little time with them. To all of you, thank you. You are all heroes.

    Now, I have thought of soldiers and their sacrifice on many occasions. I think of the time they spend away from their families so that I may tuck my children into bed at night. I have also thought of the men and women who are here at home and keep things going until their soldier comes home. What I had not really thought about was the children who wait for their soldiers to come home. Wait, let me clarify that. I have thought about them, I have just never sat down and thought of the emotional and mental strain this must put on those waiting at home. I have considered the soldiers and all of their stresses and longings to be home and their spouses stress waiting for them. I just had never really visualized what these children go through. Having parents absent for important events in life is hard enough. Having them absent because they are defending the world is entirely different.

    I sat and imagined what it would be like to talk to my children weekly through a computer or phone screen. I thought about the feelings my children would have if their daddy wasn’t home every night for dinner. I thought about how my children would feel if I was not here to tuck them in at night. This made my heart hurt so much. I realized how big of heroes these children are as well as their soldier loved ones. For that reason, I say thank you to them the most. Thank you for giving up all of the things we take for granted so that our families can be protected. You are the biggest heroes of them all.

    I hope that you all can take a minute out of your busy day to say thank you to someone who is waiting for their soldier to come home.

    On behalf of my family, I say thank you to the soldiers serving in the military and sacrificing, I say thank you to the family members left at home, and I say a humongous thank you to the children who are waiting on their soldiers to return to tuck them in at night. You are all appreciated and we send you hugs and inspiration.

    As always, my friends inspire to be inspired and do not just follow your dreams, grab them by the horns and give them wings.

  • Achieving,  change,  ebook,  family,  fantasy,  future,  Inspiration,  MyBook,  parenting,  romance,  school break

    School Is Back In….Still No Time To Write.

    Good afternoon all. Well, we have all survived the holidays and the day has finally come that the children are back in school. So now there is time to write, right? Not in my house. Now there is time to catch up on all of the stuff that has been put off to spend time with my children. Yeah, that is the excuse we will use. If your house is anything like mine, these were things that were put off because it was easier to wait until the children were out of the house (and not making a further mess) to clean up and do. So the next few days will be spent putting my house back in order and getting back to life as normal. Do any of you experience this chaos when your children are home, or is it just my house? Let me know in the comments what your chaos is like. Maybe we can support each other and share strategies.

    I also want to take the time to thank all of you who have purchased the first book in the La Flor Manor trilogy. I hope you are enjoying it as much as I enjoyed writing it. I am currently working on book two and planning book three. Lizette and Feliciano are headed for some trials to say the least. Spain 1822 is not what Lizette expected at all and culture shock might possibly be setting in. Plus there is a bit of an over-protective mother-in-law to contend with there. We will have to see how the love birds deal with the strain.

    Lastly, I would like to ask for everyone’s patience with the new site. I am making some changes and upgrading some features. If there is something you don’t like, please drop me a line and let me know. It is a work in progress as I figure out what works best for my content and readers desires. Thank you in advance for your understanding. I will try to keep every one updated on the website and books two and three.

    As always, have a wonderful day and inspire to be inspired. I hope you achieve what you set out to do today, and if you do not, do not give up just keep trying.