Now that I have moved past aspiring writer and forged my way into the published author category, it is time to rethink my routine. I have recently discovered that the whole aspiring writer title for me was basically an excuse. I was only aspiring because I didn’t push myself to work regularly on what I loved to do. I knew I wanted to write, and I did, a lot. But in my mind, I wasn’t ready for others to read my work. I realize now that this was only because I knew it would mean I needed to get serious about writing. I just wasn’t disciplined enough. Now that I have become disciplined in my writing and have to learn a new routine to balance work, home, and personal.
Being an indie author and publishing myself was a feat in and of itself. Looking back I can see all of my achievements and mistakes along the way. As I work on book two I am learning even more. There are so many things that come with self-publishing. Things I never dreamed of and therefore never did. I have studied so much in the last year on what needs to be done and am still learning. I hope to continue this learning for the rest of my life, but that is a story for another post.
I have learned that I cannot just write when I want to. I have to set a schedule for myself. I was thinking of writing La Flor Manor for a couple of years. But until I set a schedule for myself, and made deadlines, I was getting no where. So this time around I have set deadlines for myself. I have made miniature rewards for myself when I meet one of those deadlines. And of course when I miss a deadline I have a serious mental pep talk and put in an extra few hours of work to get caught up. This is proving beneficial in keeping me on track and pushing me forward.
Getting to this path has been hard though. I have had struggles and days I thought about giving up all together. This I discovered was from feeling overwhelmed. Following your dreams and achieving them is a lot of stress and pressure. All self inflicted of course. I became overwhelmed trying to find time for everything. I started freelance writing about the same time as I started seriously working on my books. Plus I have a family that wants clean clothes and dinner cooked every night. Add on top of this softball games and baseball tryouts. With all of this going on I felt like giving up. I am so happy I didn’t. I needed a routine that would give me time for everything and time to rest as well.
That is where I am at now. I have set hours now for my freelance writing. I make time in the evenings when everyone else is watching videos or playing games to do my writing as an author. I plan family fun for the weekends and work sports in as requirements dictate. This allows me to get my work done, both freelance and mom work. Gives me time to write my book and allows me a couple of hours on Sundays to just breath. This is the time I catch up on my Netflix obsession of the week and do nothing.
Through all of the trials of family, work, and being an indie author, I have found that I was losing the love of writing. The one love that has been consistent since I was a little girl. So I knew I had to fix it. Thankfully through a lot of reading and some really great blog posts by other authors, I have found my way. That is not to say that I have perfected this routine or that I will not stumble along the way. Just that finding some balance has brought the joy back into my writing and daily life.
Thank you to everyone who has supported me through these trials and to those who have encouraged me to follow my dreams. I also thank all of my supporters and readers. This has been an amazing journey so far and I cannot wait to see what the future brings.
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Good afternoon all. I hope you are having a fabulous weekend so far and staying warm. Today I have decided to talk a bit about parenting and the issue of the dreaded tantrum. I am sure many of you can relate with this topic. You know that fit that starts with mommy can I have and ends with your child screaming at the top of their lungs.
As a mother of six I have learned to deal with this tantrum rather well. Not that it makes them any easier but thus is life when you have children. I have learned some patterns to avoid and some easy tips to help ward off these fits that leave one looking for an escape. Here is what I have discovered.
- Make sure your child is well rested before trying to venture to any store.
- Distractions are an easy decoy.
- Stay strong it will pass.
- Do not worry about what others think.
- If all else fails, leave your child at home with dad.
Okay, so step 1 is the ideal option for any trip. You all know that a rested child is a happy child. If you know you have to go to the store, try to schedule it around your child’s normal nap time. After being the optimal time. As any parent knows this is not always possible. Enter step two.
Having a distraction for your child helps to keep their minds occupied. Children often throw a fit because they are bored. With boredom comes the need for attention or something to occupy their time. Try taking a favorite toy or book with you when ever you travel to the store. Do not give the item to your child until you see that the tantrum is inevitable. Let them look and be involved with your shopping trip and then pull the toy out at the needed time. Giving your child the toy to begin with will only cause them to get bored with that toy and look for new distractions. Then guess what, in comes the tantrum. So having a backup distraction is always a smart idea.
There will be times when every distraction in the world just does not work. When this happens and the screams start, you want to crawl in a hole and never come out. Do not give up though. This will pass. Sometimes you just need to let them scream it out. I know this is not what you want to hear when you are standing in a store full of people who are now staring at you. Enter step four. Do not worry about what others think. While you may at the moment feel like the worst parent in the world you are doing what is best for your child. When your child is throwing a fit he/she is asking for validation to their claims of necessity. If you give in and give them what they want to avoid the criticism of bystanders, you will be failing your child. Let them scream. Just keep going through your shopping list and ignore the tantrum they are unleashing. This will accomplish two things. You will be teaching your child that what they are crying for is not something they need and you will be teaching them that screaming is not a way to get their voice heard. Thereby teaching them that next time (and yes there will be a next time) they want something, screaming will not work. After you have done this for a while your child will learn that tantrums do not serve a purpose and they will have fewer and fewer.
I hope this helps at least someone out there. While I will not say that any of these steps are easy, they are doable. They will not always work but they will help. Never give up and just keep doing what is best for your child. In the end you will have a few more grey hairs and a better relationship with your child.
Have a wonderful weekend my friends. Inspire to be inspired and keep your dreams alive always.
Good afternoon all. Today I would like to take the time to thank all those who serve in the military. No matter where you are from or what military you serve in, THANK YOU.
I was sitting with my son, scrolling through Facebook when I saw a video of returning soldiers. Needless to say, I was in tears and my 3-year-old was asking me what was wrong. I did not know how to explain it to him. So, I sat and thought about it. I tried to come up with a way to explain to my child why I was crying. Well as it normally does, this line of thought brought me to other thoughts. Like how would you tell a child that their mommy or daddy will not be home for a few weeks, months, or even years? Now here I am. After my tear-filled realization brought on by a Facebook post.
I felt the need to say thank you to all of the men and women who leave their homes and serve to protect others from the monstrosities that are in the world. Thank you to the men and women who stay at home and keep children, pets and family members safe while their loved ones serve a higher purpose. Thank you to the children who wait patiently for mom or dad to come home from service to share a little time with them. To all of you, thank you. You are all heroes.
Now, I have thought of soldiers and their sacrifice on many occasions. I think of the time they spend away from their families so that I may tuck my children into bed at night. I have also thought of the men and women who are here at home and keep things going until their soldier comes home. What I had not really thought about was the children who wait for their soldiers to come home. Wait, let me clarify that. I have thought about them, I have just never sat down and thought of the emotional and mental strain this must put on those waiting at home. I have considered the soldiers and all of their stresses and longings to be home and their spouses stress waiting for them. I just had never really visualized what these children go through. Having parents absent for important events in life is hard enough. Having them absent because they are defending the world is entirely different.
I sat and imagined what it would be like to talk to my children weekly through a computer or phone screen. I thought about the feelings my children would have if their daddy wasn’t home every night for dinner. I thought about how my children would feel if I was not here to tuck them in at night. This made my heart hurt so much. I realized how big of heroes these children are as well as their soldier loved ones. For that reason, I say thank you to them the most. Thank you for giving up all of the things we take for granted so that our families can be protected. You are the biggest heroes of them all.
I hope that you all can take a minute out of your busy day to say thank you to someone who is waiting for their soldier to come home.
On behalf of my family, I say thank you to the soldiers serving in the military and sacrificing, I say thank you to the family members left at home, and I say a humongous thank you to the children who are waiting on their soldiers to return to tuck them in at night. You are all appreciated and we send you hugs and inspiration.
As always, my friends inspire to be inspired and do not just follow your dreams, grab them by the horns and give them wings.